Have you ever gotten a piece of bad advice?
Once I gave a speech about leaving a great job in paradise to pursue happiness in my personal life, and a piece of feedback I got was “You should wear a grass skirt and coconut bra when you give this speech.”
There’s about a million reason WHY I didn’t take that advice, but it shows that not all public speaking advice is created equally.
Picture your audience naked
Unless your audience is filled with Channing Tatum or Angelina Jolie types, this piece of advice is going to unnerve you (or if the audience is filled with beautiful people it’s going to be highly distracting).
Picturing your audience naked is supposed to help you feel that the audience is as vulnerable as you are as the speaker. It’s intended to ease your nerves, but it doesn’t help. It just makes you feel weird.
If you want to picture anything, visualize your presentation. Visualize stepping on the stage with your nerves working for you and giving a great presentation.
Practice in front of a mirror
Mirror, mirror on the wall who is the fairest of them all?
Not you. Now, stop practicing in front of the mirror.
Why shouldn’t you gaze upon your reflection as you practice your speech? Easy. This turns the focus of the presentation on you and makes you self-conscious.
Pretty soon you’ll be more focused on the way your nose smooshes up when you say the word “onomatopoeia” instead of being concerned with connecting with the audience and getting your message across.
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Start with a joke
Is your name Jimmy Fallon? How about Billy Cosby? Perhaps you’re Billy Murray? If you’re not, then starting your presentation with a joke is a bad idea.
Audiences remember most what they hear first. If your joke bombs, your listeners are going to remember you flopping. If the jokes offends, well that is even worse.
Additionally, you’re most nervous at the beginning of a presentation. Telling a joke puts a ton of pressure on you to perform. Why put that kind of pressure on yourself?
Instead tell a story, ask a question that gets the audience involved
Tell the audience you’re nervous, drunk, hung over, etc.
The belief is if you come clean about the fact that you’re nervous or had bad personal news before the presentation that this will humanize you and endear you to the audience.
It actually makes people think you are making excuses about why you didn’t bring your A-game to the presentation. Your nerves will dissipate. You’ll be able to rally to give a great presentation despite the fact you’re tired or hungover.
You don’t want to give a world class presentation then have your audience leave wondering “hmm…I wonder how much better that could have been if she hadn’t been so nervous.”
Do NOT look them in the eyes – the forehead will do
At a networking event, one woman told me “The best piece of speaking advice I ever got was to look at the audience members forehead. I never feel nervous because I don’t look at them.”
I hated to break it to her that the WHOLE audience knows you’re not looking at them. I can totally tell when someone is NOT looking me in the eye. I bet you can too.
Better advice – pick a couple of members of the audience who you are comfortable making eye contact (these are your SAM – Spectacular Audience Members) with and focus on them. Then as you get more comfortable, start making eye contact with more members of the audience.
Don’t be a victim of bad speaking advice that is bound to freak you out and make your audience frown. Not everything you read on the Internet is great advice. Trust an expert (like me…that Ph.D. in Communication pays off) or ask your coach.
We’ve talked about bad public speaking advice, but what was the BEST piece of advice you’ve ever received? Leave it in the comments section below.